Marriage mantras

1. Your control of your sexual urges will be the reason you are either successful or a failure. 2. Porn and masturbation is the greatest killer of success. It stunt and destroy your brain. 3. Avoid drinking alcohol like a camel drinking water. Nothing worse than losing your senses and acting a fool. 4. Keep your standards high and don't settle for something because it's available. 5. If you find someone smarter than you, work with them, don't compete. 6. No one is coming to save your problems. Your life's 100% is your responsibility. 7. You shouldn't take advice from people who are not where you want to be in life. 8. Find new ways to make money. Make money and ignore the jokers who mocks and make fun of you.  9. You don't need 100 self-help books, all you need is action and self discipline. Be disciplined!  10. Avoid drugs. Avoid weed.  11. Learn skills on YouTube not wasting your time consuming shitty content on Netflix.  12. No one cares about you. So stop ...

There are thirteen stupid things a Wife can do to mess up her Marriage, I want you to check them carefully and avoid them. 1) DARE HER HUSBAND TO BEAT HER: You block the door way, you dare him to beat you and see what will happen, lots of women have done this in the past and they end up regretting it. It is unwise to do this. 2) DARE HER HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN You will be making a major mistake if you dare your husband to sleep with another woman. You may live to regret it 3) NEGLECTING TO DRESS RIGHTLY BECAUSE SHE IS MARRIED “I am married, who is looking at me” That was the defense of Mrs paul when she was confronted for the reason why she dressed so shabbily. It is the mistake of most careless married women and its a major mistake you can make. 4) DENYING HER HUSBAND SEX REGULARLY You are a career woman, you feel sex in marriage is secondary, you deny your husband your body regularly, he is sexually starved and intimacy famished. His secretary, colleagues, girls in Chu...

1. LOWER YOUR VOICE Don't shout at him..He is not your child. Although sometimes he acts like a child but yes you can correct him in a minimum volume tone.  2. DO IT IN LOVE Correction should be done in love. Remember your husband is a human too. He makes mistakes and so are you.  3. NEVER EVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND IN PUBLIC OR INFRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.  Stop criticizing him, especially infront of your friends or family, that is very degrading to men, rather correct in love, just whisper with a gently hug. Most will say it's constructive criticism. But girl, men have egos too.. there self esteem are easy to breakdown.  Correction is the act of offering better options. Correction and criticism are never the same 4. LETS CUT THE SAYING “WHATEVER MY WIFE SAYS” Girl, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS! And so does your husband. Every decision should be talked and planned with the both of you.  If he said your cooking is a little salty, NEVER WALKED OUT OF THE TABLE…instead appo...

When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it. Below are some of the evidences... ✅ ATTENTION  When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love.  ✅ CARE When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you.  ✅ COMMUNICATION  When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight.  ✅ GIVING  The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving.  ✅ SPENDING TIME TOGETHER  When someone loves you, they will desire and long to spend time with you. When you love someone, you will desire the presence of the person. Anyone that doesn't like spending time with you, may not love you.  ✅ SACRIFICE  The ultimate p...

When you ask a woman out for a relationship and she gives you a reply like this "I am not interested because I am not yet ready for now" trust me what she simply means is that YOU ARE NOT "QAULIFIED" TO DATE ME. Don't be deceived by what she said, she's 100% ready its just that deep inside her heart she's not interested in you, she doesn't love you and don't want you in her life. Let me tell you one of my story. There is this girl I use to love, one day I approached her and confessed my feelings to her, she use that same lines on me and she even told me she love me but she isn't ready, as simp, I continue to press further, she kept on declining but giving me greenlights,  She kept me in her friend zone, for 6+ month I kept on asking and trying to make her change her mind but all my efforts was to no avail. Within same time, a young guy came in the neighborhood and in less than two weeks she started dating the girl that told me she's not ...

1. YOU ARE LOOKING GOOD TODAY  Yes lady, men need compliments too 2. YESTERDAY WAS AMAZING Tell him how much you enjoyed spending time with him yesterday. If you two made love, tell your husband how great he was in bed last night. It boosts his ego 3. I AM BLESSED TO HAVE YOU  Show him you appreciate how fortunate you are to have him. It makes him feel valued 4. PLEASE PRAY FOR ME  This shows you need him and his prayers. Involving God in your love shows how serious and sacred your love is 5. WHAT DO I COOK FOR YOU TONIGHT? Men love to eat. That you would ask him what he wants, makes him excited 6. I LOVE YOU  No matter how macho men try to be, they love being told this by the woman they love 7. CAN I TAKE YOU OUT? Surprise him. Treat him. A Queen can also plan a date for her King. Men love women who take charge sometimes. It's not everytime things should be left to him 8. I AM SO WET  Men love it when the woman they are faithful to reveals she is sexually aro...

📌1. GOING TO SLEEP IN KIDS' OR SPARE BEDROOM OR SITTING ROOM WHEN THEY HAVE A MISUNDERSTANDING :  This is a sign of avoidance and unwillingness to resolve conflicts. A mature partner would stay and work through the issue, rather than running away from it. It's being childish.  📌2. TELLING HER HUSBAND AS NOT MAN ENOUGH:  This is a form of emotional abuse and undermines the partner's self-esteem. A mature partner would communicate constructively about issues without personal attacks. Very few men can survive this injury.  📌3. "THERE ARE MANY MEN OUT THERE WHO CAN MARRY ME WHEN I LEAVE THIS MARRIAGE":  This is a threat and a form of emotional blackmail. A mature partner would address problems in the relationship directly and work towards a solution. 📌4. BEING QUICK TO GET angryY ABOUT EVERYTHING:  Excessive anger and overreaction to minor issues is a sign of immaturity. A mature partner would respond with more patience and understanding. 📌5. CAN'T JUST FO...

1. PROLONGING SILENT TREATMENT WHEN OFFENDED TO SHOW YOU ARE ANGRY This makes you and your husband used to not talking and makes you two draw further apart doing major damage to your communication. Even when he does wrong, get angry, but get to talk about it and forgive quickly 2. KILLING YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF BEING A GOOD WIFE  Don't isolate yourself. Have mature friends to surround you, to grow with you as a wife. This makes your life richer, widens your worldview, challenges you and makes you less demanding on your husband's time. Again, make sure the lady friends you keep are of good character. You need fellow women who will stand with you, iron sharpens iron 3. OVER REACTING OR GETTING EASILY ANGRY  When your husband reveals to you information and you over react or you become highly suspicious or critical of him, that will discourage him from sharing matters with you in future and he will begin to be secretive, not because he wants to but because he would rathe...

Uplift yourself while you are in a dating force  It's better for the relationship to stop moving forward than for your life to stop moving forward. Always be intentional about your dating life. Your dating life should not stop you for progressing in other area of your life. You should not stop chasing your goals, engaging in self improvement programs, indulging in skill acquisition just because you fell in love or because you are in a relationship. A relationship that can't tilt you into becoming a better version of yourself is not worth it. Quit now.. A relationship arena should be an avenue that is structured to transform your life, make you grow towards positivity. That's what being in an healthy relationship means. Don't be in a relationship that only stands to drain you from everything you have spent years in building,  Don't be in a relationships that stops you from exposing yourself to knowledge. Don't be with a parasitic partner, don't accommodate a ...

Sweethearts, I am going to be honest with You Guys..  It's not easy to forget about Someone You truly love, Someone who have become part of your life, Someone You have invested so much on, Someone You are mentally and emotionally attached to, Someone You have shared the best & beautiful memories with, Someone You understand & felt like the person also does the same. Honestly, it's not easy to let go such Person. No matter how easy I make this "move on" sound to You here, it's never easy and I understand but the thing is that You have no options than to learn how to adapt in their "Absence". You see, if You fail to gather the courage and strength to move on from a failed "Relationship", You will eventually keep hurting Yourself, endangering Your Future & destroying Yourself in the Present. "Life goes on". Feel bad as much as You want but understand that when People are no longer interested in You anymore there is nothing Yo...

 1: LOWER YOUR VOICE Don't shout at her, she is not your child. You can correct, yes, but why shouting? 2: DO IT IN LOVE Correction should be done in love. If done in any other way, it turns to criticism and condemnation. 3a: DON'T CRITICIZE Stop criticizing her, rather correct in love. Most will say it's constructive criticism. But truly, It means disapproval by pointing out errors and mistakes. Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes  Correction and criticism are never the same 3b: HUSBAND A SAYS What manner of food is this? Is this popcorn or fried rice? how I wish I marry a more sensible wife with better home training, who can cook better. HUSBAND B SAYS sweetheart this rice it too salty and dry unlike the one you did yesterday. I think salt should be reduce any other time because of our health. Husband A criticized while Husband B corrected his wife in love STOP CRITICIZING YOUR WIFE 4 PRAISE HER FOR WHAT IS RIGHT It will be wrong to correct when ...

It's possible for any man to ask for sex in a relationship, but is left for you as a lady to know that sex, can't keep him..(Sex isn't enough) There are two major factors ladies complain about sex in a relationship: (1) After giving him my body he left me.. (2)He left because I refused to have sex with him.. NOTE: Both those who gave and those who refused to give are complaining... ( Whats the difference) Ladies Listen, Sex isn't enough, its not the only thing you can offer a man. If You Don't Have Anything To Offer A Man Outside Sex, Please remain Single... A man can't stay with you because his having sex with you.... Relationship is not buying and selling. There are much to life than Monkey style, Doggy style, Missionary style, Apple n juice style, step pillows style, etc ... Are you sound intellectually? Spiritually? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally? Men love intelligent ladies... Men love ladies with ideas.. Men love respectful ladies... Men respect ladies ...

How can two walk together unless they agree? The truth is, that many marriages get ruined because of misunderstandings. Misunderstandings are brought about by a lack of agreement on how to handle the issues that affect each marriage. Failing to agree will lead to the husband and wife interpreting things differently leading to feelings of hurt, insensitivity, rejection, intolerance and indifference. Agree with your spouse on the do's and don'ts. Have these rules. 1. SEX RULES  Agree that you can have sex in whichever way and position, but also agree on what you will not try out. For example; no anal sex, no masturbation when you have each other, no pornography use, no inflicting pain or no making love when she is on monthly periods and if he is horny then, how will she pleasure him? Each couple is different. Agree on what are the limits. 2. PHONE RULES  Agree on how to handle the phone. For example, no chatting with others past 11pm for that is an intimate time, no secrecy, no ...

1. WORKING SO HARD AT YOUR JOB/BUSINESS BUT NOT IN YOUR MARRIAGE Men, your company, your career, your business is growing and flourishing because you lead it; your marriage will grow and flourish when you lead it and dedicate time to it 2. THINKING THAT FLIRTING WITH OTHER WOMEN IS NOT CHEATING  You may not physically sleep with other women but emotionally cheating is also unfaithfulness. Receiving nude images and having phone sex with other women is also cheating. Talking suggestively and attracting temptations is also cheating. If you are a flirt, flirt with your wife. If you claim your wife is too rigid, treat her well and she will respond to your kinky ways. She also wants sexual pleasure and to feel wanted 3. BEING GENEROUS OUTSIDE AND STINGY AT HOME Don't be the husband who quickly says yes when other people ask for help, for your time and your money; but stingy to your wife and child/children. Your family comes first. Don't go to harambees contributing large sums, helpi...

Don't fall in love with a person too fast, the day you learn how to discipline your emotions, it's that day you have conquered a strong weakness that has destroyed so many people. You can love a person and yet not be desperate or act too needy. After you have done all the needful to get someone to say YES, don't rush things, be calm and control your urge to please. BEFORE YOU COMMIT to someone you must be informed well enough that a person is serious with you and here are some parameters I use to judge a person. Accountability Someone who loves you and want to be serious with you will be he/herself and be accountable both in deeds and in words, will always want to involve you in everything, in their life including there secrets, they won't be logical at all, very vulnerable in sharing secrets with you. Their transparency is key. Their eagerness to always please you. A person who is serious with you will make your happiness their priority, they won't want to put yo...

As a man its never your duty to protect your woman from other men coming to toast her, fvck her or even flirt with her. Its 100% your woman responsibility to create boundaries against men who would wants to invest their interest in her space.  The moment your woman begins to give consent to external male figures your job is not to protect her from them, start questioning her, begging or trying to stop her.. No There is absolutely nothing you can do about a woman whose eyes are outside. You will only hurt yourself if you try to caution her. As a man you have failed if you try to talk her into leaving other men just for you. When a woman disrespect you by flirting with another man, giving another man access to her life like the way the young man girlfriend left him only to be used by Omalay on stage.  Your best reaction is to ABANDON HER and DUMP HER BACK TO THE STREET WHERE YOU PICKED HER FROM. Women who are like that have no place to be a wife to any wise man, she's for the s...

There are several reasons why reading books every day can be beneficial:  1. Knowledge and Learning: Reading books exposes you to a wide range of information and ideas, helping you expand your knowledge and understanding of various subjects. 2. Vocabulary and Language Skills: Regular reading enhances your vocabulary and language skills, improving your ability to communicate effectively. 3. Mental Stimulation: Reading stimulates your brain, keeping it active and engaged. It can improve memory, concentration,and critical thinking skills. 4. Stress Reduction: Reading can be a great way to relax and unwind. It can transport you to different worlds, providing an escape from daily stressors. 5. Empathy and Understanding: Reading fiction allows you to explore different perspectives and experiences, fostering empathy and understanding towards others 6. Improved Focus and Concentration: In a world filled with distractions, reading helps improve your focus and concentration abilities. 7. Cre...

Most times some of you need to know that you can win the battle and lose the war and you can also lose the battle and win the war. What this mean is that. If you go ahead and force, beg, convince a woman/man to love you outside he's/her own free will, she/he might end up accepting you out of pity but then as you win the aspect of that battle, you will lose the war and by loosing the war, I mean, you will suffer to keep and maintain the relationship and at the end of the day you will still loose him/her in pain. This is why your focus should be winning THE WAR, yes you lose the battle but then you gain long term peace, happiness, comfort and freedom from long term pain, suffering and disappointment.  Its better you don't start it when you already know that the end result is leading you to your doom. WALKING AWAY is a super power all men and women must have. Once a woman/man is not fulfilling her purpose in your life, you gotta lose her/him to win yourself. Don't lose yourse...

A man who can control his sexual urge is a man who can live many years on earth. Men don't know that some of their failures are caused by multiple girlfriends Not all girls have good spirit. Some are demons, others have venom between their legs. Some women are destiny destroyers, beware. Pay close attention: 1. A real man only has one woman in his life. 2. Don't obey your Erection at all times. Most erections mislead you Control your erection if you don't want to have few days on earth with much poverty in you. 3. Don't date a lady because she has curves, boobs and a sexy shape. These things are simply misleading avoid such, don't fall for what is called social media irony. 4. Not everything you see under skirt you must work to eat, some skirts contain snakes that bite you and make you uncomfortable. control your sexual urge Self control and abstinence pays a lot in most cases. 5. Marrying a woman doesn't mean she owns you. Treat her with respect Make her your q...

Some women give a woman the worst advice. These are some of them  "IF YOU TREAT HIM GOOD, HE WILL TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED"  This lie has led many women to withhold love from the good man they have. Men need love too and the 100% support of the woman they are with. A good man won't take you for granted when you treat him like a King, instead, he will be inspired even more to love you and value you as his Queen "IF HE DOESN'T MAKE YOU SQUIRT, HE IS NOT SEXING YOU RIGHT" Some girlfriends make a woman feel abnormal because she doesn't squirt when she climaxes. Lady, what is of importance is you and your husband enjoying sexual pleasure custom made for you two. Some ladies take long to climax, others climax quickly, others climax multiple times in a love making session, others climax once and any further activity becomes painful, some squirt, others cream, others don't yet all enjoy pleasure. Your body is unique, don't try to copy other women's sex...

MEN. In your quest for looking for a good woman never use money to patronize her attraction, loyalty and submission. Your status can go a long way but don't use money at all. Money don't outrightly buy love, it can only buy what looks like love but it isn't love. Money don't keep women if not the richest men in the universe wives wouldn't have left them. During your process of wooing, pitch your charisma to her and let her decide her feelings for you. If you carry all your money all in the bid to impress a woman and enter a relationship with her buy force, you will consistently keep paying her to make her stay with you. The day your money finishes, its the same day her love for you finishes. She's only there because the money is still there. The depth of her love for you is directly proportional to the depth of your pocket. Her love for you is strictly transactional, me for your money, PERIOD. Once you decide to use money to buy a woman loves, make sure you have...