If your husband doesn't last long in bed or his penis loses erection quickly, if your wife has an unpleasant smell or she struggles to do some sex positions; don't expose him/her to your friends or someone who you are flirting with in bid to justify why you are flirting. The sexual struggles in your marriage should be kept a secret as you both feel safe seeking solutions together
If the sex in your marriage is incredible, don't go around sharing all the details; not because you are afraid your friends will want to steal your sexually amazing spouse, but because some things are best kept special by being kept secret just between you two. Others may know your spouse is great in bed, but they don't need to know the details of how great. Your love making is not for their entertainment
Be careful especially when sharing this information with your family members; they might want to take advantage of your spouse if he/she earns alot or look down on your spouse if he/she earns less or nothing at the moment. You two know how much you bring to the family basket and know your limit on how engaged you want to be in supporting your relatives
Have you bought your spouse a car, have you given your spouse capital to start a business, have you paid your spouse's University education fees, have you bought your spouse an expensive gift or clothes?; don't go informing people about it. By doing good to your spouse, you did it for you because you two are one. If it came from your heart, you will not go bragging about it
If your spouse had a dark past; maybe your spouse made bad romantic choices in the past, procured an abortion, was sexually abused, was in a dishonourable profession; it is not your place to disclose this to people. If your spouse wants to share this as a testimony to encourage and teach others that should come from him/her, not you
Are you two praying and fasting as a couple, perhaps you are praying for financial breakthrough, to get a child, to find solutions, to defeat a recurring problem in your marriage; keep this between you two as you cry out to God. You don't have to invite others into your private warroom
Is your spouse struggling with an embarrassing addiction, perhaps porn, gambling, masturbation, alcoholism; don't go telling people to show how disappointed you are. Cover your spouse and mitigate the situation. If it is to talk to someone, let it be a counsellor or therapist to find constructive and practical solutions. You two will win this battle in private
If there are things about you that your spouse doesn't like, change them instead of going out there telling people "Imagine my spouse is such a pain, complaining that I don't do XYZ"
If your spouse has an issue with your friend/friends, don't go telling your friends; they might gang up against your spouse and you might find yourself joining them to mock your spouse. Analyse your spouse's complaints, if they have merit, cut off that friend/friends or keep them distant
If your spouse raises concerns about your parents, siblings or relatives; don't go telling them. You will give them ammunition to attack and dislike your spouse. You are the bridge between your spouse and your relatives. Wisely use the information your spouse has shared with you to foster a better bond
If your marriage is going through issues, don't go posting online those issues as you reveal your spouse's identity, posting on your wall or WhatsApp hoping that your spouse will read and get your attack message. No, solve issues in private
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